People at the rally, called by associations from across Spain, carried signs declaring “Not with Mum, not with Dad, with both of them,” “Joint custody now,” “No more orphans with living parents,” and “Don’t allow Dad to be deleted from childhood.”

Association representatives explained that their aim was to put an end to the generalised standard habit of awarding custody to one parent, which is still used in most Spanish courts.

“Children are born under joint custody then a judge comes along and leaves them fatherless for no apparent reason,” said Miguel Rodriguez from Custodia Paterna (Paternal Custody) association.

Maite Disdier, president of Segundas Mujeres e Hijos por la Igualdad (Second Wives and Children for Equality), said that the aim of the rally was to get politicians’ attention and stressed that step-families, like her own, should be allowed equal rights and relationships without the financial setbacks caused by high maintenance payments.

Disdier said she believed children have the right to joint custody: “Kids should be allowed to live and grow up with their dad and their mum.”

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http://www.house.mo.gov/BillActions.aspx?bill=HB1131&year=2015&code=R

Parental alienation is very real! Though PA happens in various stages, it is still harmful to children and of course to the target parent. This problem is not solely with one gender but the custodial parent has more power to inflict harm while the non-custodial parent is very much caught off guard. Custodial parents who bad mouth the other parent in front of their children are abusers. More and more specialists are considering PA as child abuse and if the alienation doesn’t stop, have called for the removal of children from that parent. It takes a truly disturbed and obsessed person to harm a child by brainwashing them against a loving parent and their extended family and friends, who care deeply about the child. Alienators are unable to act in the best interests of their child. Children are in their lives to serve them and help them get their way. A child is not allowed to grieve for the loss of the target parent or the extended family without the alienating parent getting angry. The children learn pretty quick to keep their feelings to themselves. Alienators are most times cool, calm and collected in court while the target parent is angry and stressed. This of course, works against the target parent but the courts have this all wrong. The child and target parent are sent to therapy but not the alienator, who needs the therapy more than anyone. Actually the target parent is displaying situational anger and stress. And who wouldn’t given the circumstances? Alienation is definitely complex but it is overcome with access. When family courts give the bulk of parenting time to an angry, bitter, or borderline personality, the alienation is a given. Shared parenting will go a long way in eradicating this behavior because access is half of the battle.

We visited last week and received great response from Representatives and Senators. Many have seen the dysfunction and bias in our Family Courts, either through personal experience or through stories from friends and family. Everyone we talked to acknowledged there was a definite problem and a few were more than willing to get a bill through this session. We encourage every citizen to call their Representative and Senator and gently encourage them to reform our Family Court system.

Contact Information:

MO Senate

http://www.senate.mo.gov/15info/SenateRoster.htm

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MO House

http://www.house.mo.gov/member.aspx